I'm not an old lady and I don't live in a shoe and I only have two children, BUT.....?

Time out works really well if used properly. Go in the bathroom and relax after they go to bed tonight. UR just stressed out and need a break. We all feel like this every now and then. You are entitled. Just use a firm voice with them and be consistent. Although I do believe in s I think you are just at the end of your rope today. De-stress, light a candle, take a bubble bath and try and remember how much you love them and how they usually make your day so bright. Then go and look at them while they are sleeping. That's when they are the sweetest! Good luck, sweetie. I'm praying for your patience.